If you have just broke up with your boyfriend and want him back and don’t know what to do, you may be feeling helpless and anxious right
now. When you are in the middle of a breakup and the embarrassing pain is
exposed it leave us in a very vulnerable state that can force us to say some
pretty ugly things.If you are the reason for the break up and have been confronted you probably got on the defensive and tried to make your man the reason for your misdeeds. Of course you know this is wrong even if it seems to work at the time you are still breaking up. Guilt only last for a moment. Either way you are losing your man.
If you want your ex back you will first have to clear the
air about your wrong doing and genuinely want to talk things over and make it
right. You also have to give your ex some space to thing and calm down without
the pressure of you begging and text stalking. This will only make things worse
by confirming that you are a total jerk.
If you want to win back your ex you will have to:
- Stop all negative contact such as stalking texting and calling.
- Showing up unannounced at his workplace or home.
- Forced conversations and space invasion.
- Blaming, accusing and accusations.
- Using guilt as a tool.
Winning back your ex boyfriend back and
keeping him will take much more than begging and looking good. If you are
serious about getting your ex back, you have to first get it out of your head
that this is still your boyfriend. Then you will see that he is not yours and
except the fact that you have to do what is necessary for him to make the
choice to take you back. A relationship is when a couple of people want to be
together by their own choice.
If you are using pressure to keep your relationship together
you have already lost to the future great guy that offers a choice by saying
and doing the right things and allowing free will to work.
- Join a new club, gym or take a class in something you always wanted to do. This will give you something interesting to talk about and make your ex see that you are really ready to change for the better.
- Leave a message to your ex saying that they were right and you want to thank them. This will cause them to be curious and drop their defense. You will receive a call or visit soon, if not call for coffee in a few days.
- When your ex calls or come to you remain calm and friendly. Keep this meeting very brief and ask for a few minutes (10 minutes the longest) to talk. Do not talk longer even if you want to, this will prevent you from going back into the argument that is still fresh in your minds.
- Never ask if your ex is dating. It doesn't matter, you want to let your ex chose you and not put him on the defensive. We all know that rebound relationships are only to make us jealous anyway or as a distraction. Don’t let jealousy blow your chances of getting your ex back.
You are now on your way to making some better decisions while trying to win back your ex. I hope you seriously relax and take time to do something
for yourself. Thinking about a breakup all of the time can make us do crazy
things you can’t take back. You want to avoid any negative behavior that will
cause you to lose your ex forever. Don't listen to your girls if they never won back a boyfriend even if they mean well. The reason is you will resent them for their opinion later if it doesn't work.
WARNING: If you’re having a real terrible time
dealing with this break up and need to stalk, you need serious help and are not
ready to be in a healthy relationship.
If you want to get real help and don’t know what
to say to your ex when your meet get some relationship advice I recommend that will put you
in the good graces and get your ex boyfriend back. Good Luck!
