I don't know why a man doesn't want to be treated like a child but wants you to clean after them as if you are their mother! I suggest you set guideline before you begin to live together but if your reading this....well it's too late for that.
Set up an establish favor for your spouse to do for you in exchange for you cleaning up a mess he created. Make him pay for your gas, nails etc every week for payment. If he thinks you are the maid you might as well get paid for it.
Let's face it if men have what ever they need in their home keeping it clean is not a priority. They have sex, food and a roof. Nothing else seems to matter to them. If these things matter to you, you will have to affect the things that matter to him....Food, sex and roof!